What Should You Pick as Your Safe Word?
When you are starting to play kinky sex games, it’s always a good idea to put a safe word in place. This is something that you will say when you really want things to stop, which gives you the opportunity for creative play that allows for fantasy roleplay. Most couples giggle at the idea of coming up with this, but trust the experts - you will appreciate having it if you ever need it. However, some people struggle with what to think of to use as a safe word. There are a few methods, but first there are some things to consider. The word should be something that you don’t normally say in the context of your regular play sessions. It should be something that you would definitely be saying specifically for this purpose. However, it also shouldn’t be too hard to remember, so you will remember it in the moment. Whether you’re playing with big anal toys or doing a little bondage, a safe word can be a whole lot of fun.
Stop Lights
Some people who like order and organization use what is known as the stop light method. When they say “yellow” they are getting close to a limit, and “red” is the actual safe word. This mimics stoplights you see when you are driving because yellow means slow down, and red means stop. It’s an easy thing to remember and a good thing to use unless your fantasy involves being dominated by a cop who pulled you over at a red light!
Silly Words
Other couples and play partners like to use words that are kind of funny which you would probably never say. Pamplemousse, French for grapefruit is a popular choice, as is the word cacao.
Relatable Words
Are you from a town with a weird name that only you and your partner know about? Do you know the Latin names of every plant in your local area? These words give you tons of ideas for fun safe words. State names, names of popstars, movie actors or pornstars make great safe words too! Get creative with it.
